3 years ago
Domestic Violence Fact

Only 17% of the victims were asked by the police about a restraining order, and 83% were provided no printed information with contact information or resources.

Domestic Violence Fact

Only in one-third of the domestic violence calls did an officer take photographs or ask about prior abuse.

Domestic Violence Fact

Even with this dramatic under-reporting, domestic violence calls constitute approximately half of all violent crime calls to police departments. For example, 49% of the violent crime calls received by the DC Metropolitan Police Department in 2000 were for domestic violence incidents.

Domestic Violence Fact

The most common reasons for not reporting domestic violence to police are that victims view the incident as a personal or private matter, they fear retaliation from their abuser, and they do not believe that police will do anything about the incident.

3 years ago
Domestic Violence Fact

Only about half of domestic violence incidents are reported to police. African-American women are more likely than others to report their victimization to police

Domestic Violence Fact

African-American women experience more domestic violence than White women in the age group of 20-24. However, Black and White women experience the same level of victimization in all other age categories

Domestic Violence Fact

Hispanic women are less likely to be victimized than non-Hispanic women in every age group.

"Mom’s boyfriend shot her in the foot.  We hid in the closet.  When the police came they took him away and my mom went to the hospital.  I was sad and scared." Girl, Age 4-1/2

"Mom’s boyfriend shot her in the foot.  We hid in the closet.  When the police came they took him away and my mom went to the hospital.  I was sad and scared." Girl, Age 4-1/2

Disturbing Fact about Domestic Violence #5

Fifty-three percent of battered women still involved with the perpetrator experienced self-blame for causing the violence.

3 years ago
Disturbing Fact about Domestic Violence #4

Each year, medical expenses from domestic violence total at least $3 to $5 billion. Businesses forfeit another $100 million in lost wages, sick leave, absenteeism and non-productivity.

Disturbing Fact about Domestic Violence #3

Women from 15 to 44 years old were more likely than women of other ages to be victimized by an intimate. Also, the rate of intimate-offender attacks on women separated from their husbands was about three times higher than that of divorced women and about 25 times higher than that of married women. However, because the survey records a respondent’s marital status only at the time of the interview, it is possible in some instances that separation or divorce followed the violence.

Disturbing Fact about Domestic Violence #2

During each year women were the victims of more than 4.5 million violent crimes, including approximately 500,000 rapes or other sexual assaults. In 29 percent of the violent crimes against women by lone offenders the perpetrators were intimates —husbands, former husbands, boyfriends or former boyfriends.

Disturbing Fact about Domestic Violence #1

Every year, in the United States there are over 3 million incidents of reported domestic violence. Every year, 4,000 victims of domestic violence are killed. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, 95% of assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women. Nearly one-third of the women who seek care from hospital emergency rooms are there for injuries resulting from domestic violence.

Understanding the Cycle of Violence

Domestic violence relationships exhibit certain characteristics that differ from healthy, intimate relationships. Understanding the difference may be the key to recognizing the need to seek assistance.

Violent relationships usually do not begin with violence. Like normal, healthy couples, you begin with romance.

Romance
During this time, the batterer attempts to bond or connect with their partner. Domestic violence relationships never return to romance once the cycle begins. Domestic violence partners then proceed into the next phase of the Cycle of Violence, called the Tension Building Phase, which is marked by Power and Control.

  1. Tension Building Phase
    The batterer begins to assert his or her power over the victim in an attempt to control the victim’s actions. Batterers will set rules for the victim that are impossible to follow. They will tell the victim that there will be consequences if they break the rules. Sadly, the consequences usually result in violence against the victim. Rules often may include no contact with family members, money spending rules and/or needing to obtain permission for everything the victim does. Batterers use demeaning, degrading and derogatory phrases toward the victim in an attempt to “objectify” the victim. This is done because it is easier to commit violence against an “object” rather than someone you are supposed to love.
    The victim may internalize the appropriate anger at the abuser’s unfairness and experience physical effects such as depression, tension, anxiety and headaches. As the tension in the relationship increases, minor episodes of violence increase, such as pinching, slapping or shoving.
    The rules are nearly impossible to follow, but victims try to follow them in an attempt to forestall the inevitable assaults. The violation of the rules leads the couple into the next phase, Acute Battering Phase.

  2. Acute Battering Incident
    During this phase, the batterer exhibits uncontrolled violence outbursts. This is the shortest of the three but the most dangerous. Batterers decide to teach the victim a lesson and will usually injure the victim. The injuries may start out as minor such as a slap, a pinch, or hair pulling. As the cycle continues the violence becomes increasingly brutal and escalates into a great bodily injury or death.
    If death does not occur, the victims usually react with shock, denial or disbelief and the cycle continues into the third phase The Acute Battering Phase ends in an explosion of violence. The victim may or may not fight back. Following the battering, the victim is in a state of physical and psychological shock. The batterer may discount the episode and underestimate the victim’s injuries.

  3. Remorseful Phase
    During this last phase of the cycle of violence, the batterer usually begins an intense effort to win forgiveness and ensure that the relationship will not break up. Batterers ask for forgiveness, say it will not happen again and behave in a very loving and kind manner. While batterers apologize, they still blame the victim for the violence stating, “If you had only stayed home like I asked you, I wouldn’t have had to hit you…” or “I’ll never do it again…” Often batterers use gifts to convince the victim to forgive. The victim wants to believe that the abuse will end. The victim’s feelings that the abuse will now stop is supported by the batterer’s loving behavior.
    Once violence has begun, it continues to increase in both frequency and severity. When you identify the cycle of violence in your relationship or that of a loved one, you can start to see how you or your friend has been victimized. Change cannot occur unless you seek assistance from a trained professional. Resources are available. Remember life is not so lacking in value that it should be risked in order to “help” someone who is brutally battering.
3 years ago
Reasons Why Battered Victims Stay With the Batterers (Part 5)

Some batterers are life endangering. It is possible to evaluate whether a batterer is likely to kill his partner, other family members, and/or others attempting intervention. The following are indicators often used in making an assessment of a batterer’s potential to kill.

  • Fantasies of Homicide or Suicide - The more the batterer has developed a fantasy about who, how, when and/or where to kill, the more dangerous the batterer may be. The batterer who has previously acted out part of a homicide or suicide fantasy may be invested in killing as a viable “solution” to the abuser’s problem.
  • Weapons - Where a batterer possesses weapons and has used them or has threatened to use them in the past assaults on the battered victim, the children or self, the batterer’s access to those weapons increases the potential for lethal assault.
  • Obsessiveness about Partner or Family - A batterer who is obsessive about their partner, who either idolizes and feels that they cannot live without their partner or believes they are entitled to their partner no matter what because they are their spouse, is more likely to be life-endangering.
  • Centrality of the Battered Woman - If the loss of the battered victim represents or precipitates a total loss of hope for a positive future, a batterer may choose to kill.
  • Rage - The most life endangering rage often erupts when a batterer believes the battered victim is leaving.
  • Threats of Homicide or Suicide - The batterer who has threatened to kill himself/herself, his partner, the children, or her relatives must be considered extremely dangerous.
  • Depression - Where a batterer has been acutely depressed and sees little hope for moving beyond the depression, may be a candidate for homicide and suicide.
  • Drugs or Alcohol Consumption - Consumption of drugs or alcohol when in a state of despair or fury can elevate the risk of lethality.
  • Pet Abuse - Those batterers who assault and mutilate pets are more likely to kill or maim family members.
  • Access to the Battered Victim and/or Family Member - If the batterer cannot find the victim, the batterer cannot kill the victim.

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